Updated: Feb 4, 2022
Marriage is a life-long commitment, and you want to ensure you are marrying the right individual. When searching for a life partner, you need to look for someone who possesses the suitable characteristics of husband material:
Here are some things to consider if he's really the one:
Ability to express his feelings
Although it may be a way to showcase strength, men shouldn’t hide how they feel. They should be able to communicate when they are feeling mad, happy, sad, anxious, etc. When he does express his feelings, you should be attentive and patient. If we don’t validate his feelings, he may be less inclined in the future to express how he truly feels, which could cause future problems in the relationship.
Social media boundaries are established
With social media being a popular tool to share, like, and subscribe to content, its intent is to bring people together, but it can also pull an intimate relationship apart. If he does have social media, you need to establish boundaries that both parties agree to. For example, liking and commenting on other female’s photos may be something you are not comfortable with. Therefore, out of respect for you, he should be mindful of this.
You can trust him
In order for any relationship to succeed, you need to trust each other. Trust takes a while to establish and seconds to destroy. If you constantly wonder if he is being truthful, ask yourself why you think that. Has he provided you with you a reason not to believe him? Sometimes, our past may jade our future (if we let it). Therefore, if you’re with someone who happens to keep his word and does tell the truth, he is a keeper.
Wishes to know your love language
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five general ways that romantic partners express and experience love, which Chapman calls "love languages." We all give and receive love in 5 different ways such as words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Gift this book to your partner or both take an online quiz to determine what your respective languages are. Here is the quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
Plans one-on-one time with you
“Treat her as you did in the beginning, and you will never lose her.” At the beginning of the relationship, the man would plan dates and try his best to win the woman over. However, as the relationship continues, the man may simply forgo dates and get complacent. This isn’t ideal because the woman needs to continue to feel important and dating still needs to remain a priority.
Establish hobbies outside of your relationship
Couples that do absolutely everything together may be at a disadvantage. This is because they spend little to no time with anyone else without their partner present. Joining a book club, a sports team, a pottery class or whatever else it might be individually is a wise idea. This would allow you both to do what you enjoy and form new friendships with like-minded people outside of your relationship. Thus, after the activity, you are able to come together and share what you learned.
Congratulates you on your success
If you both plan to be a long-term couple, your success is his success. How you are happy for him when he gets a promotion, receives recognition at work, or when he starts a new endeavour, he should be able to be genuinely happy for you! If he acts jealous or questions you, this could be a red flag.