In all relationships, we all think that without sex the relationship isn’t real. What I have learned is then if your relationship lacks emotional intimacy, you start to feel disconnected from your partner. Often, couples don't recognize the signs when emotional intimacy is lacking. For example, a spouse may be blindsided when a husband announces that they want to leave the marriage. Looking back more closely over the years of their marriage, they may recall times when there was an emotional distance between them.
Relationships that lack emotional intimacy are often characterized by a lack of trust, poor communication, secrets and hidden emotions.
There are ways to improve:
Silence the Electronics
Deep and meaningful emotional intimacy in a relationship depends on the quality of human interaction.
Be Emotionally Available
After years together, couples inevitably learn what might hurt their partners. Kind and loving partners who avoid hurting each other help each other feel loved, valued, and safe. When we make the environment safe for our spouses, emotional intimacy finds its place.
Increase Your Time Together
It can be hard to find time together as a couple. Having children in the home can often magnify that difficulty.
A weekly date night, lunch together once or twice a week, or regular walks around your neighborhood can increase the time you spend together. Making time to focus on each other without the kids or other distractions is critical to maintaining emotional intimacy.
Seek a Balance Between Self and Couple
The strongest marriage relationships have two interdependent partners. Each one has hobbies, a professional life, or a social life, and they come together to invest in the marriage relationship. We all need quality time for ourselves as well as together.